Compassion & Forgiveness.

Someone has hurt you. You feel that hurt, disappointment, betrayal, and anger. So then, you guard you heart against any future "attacks." Closing yourself off so that the same thing won't happen again. Have we ever tried to connect to the real reason why someone has hurt or disappointed us? Lets start by asking yourself, have you ever hurt someone? Has someone told you that you hurt them, but you thought they were overreacting because you know you didn't mean to? Im sure the answer is yes. Here is the key to never allowing yourself to be hurt by another person and to not hurt someone yourself. The key is love, compassion and understanding. You have to understand why someone is the way they are and accept it for that is the current path they are on. Have compassion for that is the state they are in at the moment. Give love for we all go through things in life that challenge us and we too hurt people along the way. 98 percent of the time it is NOT malicious, and you must love them for it and send them love as you would expect it in return. That does not mean you must accept the behavior nor be around it. It is wise to distance yourself if you are not on that frequency. However, you must have compassion for them, understand why, love them for it, and send them love to come out of it. All it takes is loving yourself and being realistic to be able to do this. If you love yourself, you always want to be true to yourself. You will want yourself to live the truth of EVERY situation you are in. You see, when you have compassion for those that have hurt you, understand it, and send love, its impossible for you to get hurt. Impossible! Because you will know the true reality of human nature. Therefore you can never be hurt or disappointed by a person again. That is your weapon. Compassion, Understanding, and Love. When you are realistic, what im speaking of BECOMES realistic. Guarding yourself only makes you a constant guard. When being a constant guard, we will attract the things that we constantly need to guard against. This is law. What we put out is what we get back. That is the mechanism of the universe - Simple physics. Like energy to like energy.

Isn't it better to grow from lessons that come from the contrasts of life vs enduring hurt and pain because of the expectations of others and the expectations we place on others?

-- Scott